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Couples Therapy

Couples Counseling

Do You And Your Partner Keep Running Into The Same
Dead-End Conflict?

Are you and your significant other having the same fight over and over? Has perpetual arguing kept you from feeling connected to one another? Would your relationship improve if you could learn to communicate more effectively? 

Whether you’re dating or in a long-term, committed partnership, issues can come up that result in tension and disagreement. One or both of you may experience feelings of anger and frustration as you can’t help but miscommunicate. Or maybe you struggle with confusion, wondering if you and your partner are on the same page considering all the discord in the relationship. 

Ongoing conflict likely creates daily symptoms of anxiety, such as chronic worry and difficulty sleeping. You may struggle with shame in being unable to solve the problems present in your marriage or relationship. Or perhaps there is a betrayal of trust interfering with a sense of security and intimacy within your partnership. 

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Whether you have children or not, tension in the relationship can often make life at home feel unbearable. You may feel guilty that your kids witness the ongoing fighting, or perhaps you’re worried that your communication issues as a couple are keeping you from being present in your other relationships.  

If you and your partner could learn to reconnect and get on the same page, everyday life would feel so much more manageable. Fortunately, couples counseling offers you an opportunity to develop communication skills and solve the problems in your marriage—together.

All Relationships Take Work

Couples from every background and partner orientation struggle with challenges in their relationships. Maintaining a healthy partnership is hard work, even for those who have a lot of romantic experience. 

Our lives are increasingly demanding, presenting us with stressful work obligations, familial responsibilities, and the pressure to achieve our goals as individuals. It can be difficult to find quality time to spend with our partner, which may inadvertently lead to a sense of disconnect, isolation, and resentment. 

In addition, many of us come from backgrounds wherein we weren’t given strong models for healthy relationships. Not to mention, we all have to contend with cultural norms and gender roles that can affect our romantic partnership. Without guidance, it can be hard to communicate our needs effectively or listen with empathy. As a result, we struggle to reconnect and repair a relationship that runs into chronic, counterproductive conflict.  

There is a misconception, however, that marriage and couples counseling is only for couples struggling with “big” problems. Yet counseling is for any couple experiencing the normal ebb and flow of a relationship. With a couples counselor, you can learn to address the core issue driving the conflict as you begin to understand your partner’s wants and needs more fully. 

Couples Counseling Gives You The Benefit Of A Trained, Objective Point-Of-View

So often, couples that struggle through ongoing conflict and communication issues make little to no progress because the environment is so charged with anger and reactivity, and there is no one to mediate conflict. In counseling, couples can come together to verbalize frustrations and work through gridlock with a trained, empathetic clinician who will remain objective through the therapeutic process. 

As a solution-focused couples counselor, I will work with both of you to identify the core issues and emotions impacting your communication. Together, you will understand triggers, learn the difference between managing and solving conflict, and re-establish connection through reaching shared goals. 

The Therapeutic Process Using The Gottman Method For Couples Counseling

My approach to therapy draws primarily from the Gottman Method for couples counseling. This research-based intervention uses a multi-faceted process known as The Sound Relationship House Theory to strengthen the weak areas in your relationship. Because this therapy is meant to be easily applicable outside of our therapeutic sessions, I use our time together to teach you how to bolster your communication skills and individual abilities within the partnership so that you can navigate challenges together as they come up.

Following the Gottman Method process, counseling begins with an initial couples interview, during which I’ll learn more about you, your relationship or marriage, and the problem areas that bring you to therapy.

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When you return to meet with me as a couple, we will discuss your assessment and begin the work of disarming verbal communication to explore issues openly throughout counseling. I will guide you along the way in developing increased mutual intimacy and respect, removing barriers, and creating a heightened sense of empathy and shared values. 

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By committing to couples counseling, you are investing in the future of your marriage or relationship while bolstering your individual strengths. A counselor can help you mediate ongoing communication issues so that you can be a healthy, happy, and lasting couple. 

Maybe You’re Ready To See A Couples Counselor, But You’re Not Quite Sure… 

We don’t have the time or money to spend on couples therapy. 

Like any investment, counseling has the potential to pay off and improve the quality of your life together. While it can be difficult to find the resources needed for therapy, I am confident that you will save time and money in the long run by investing in your partnership. 

 

Our issues aren’t big enough to warrant counseling. 

All couples can benefit from bolstering their communication skills, identifying shared goals, and exploring emotions in counseling. You don’t need to be in crisis to benefit from therapy. 

In any long-term relationship, conflict is bound to arise at some point. Working with a marriage counselor can help you learn how to communicate effectively and get ahead of issues before they turn into problems. 

 

I don’t want you to judge us for the issues that come up in our sessions. 

Given that I’m a couples therapist, I’ve encountered my fair share of communication issues, marriage problems, and intense conflict. In fact, I encourage honesty and strong emotions in our couples counseling sessions to affect lasting, positive change in the relationship. This process works best when each partner can be vulnerable and open about how they perceive the relationship.  

 

Couples counseling will only increase conflict in our marriage/relationship. 

Though it can be emotionally charged to rehash your arguments in therapy, my ultimate goal as your couples counselor is to help you learn how to overcome perpetual conflict. The Gottman Method is specially designed to help you navigate conflict and improve communication. 

By learning to solve problems together in therapy, you will be able to apply skills outside of counseling sessions so that life together can be more joyful and free of stress. 

You Can Come Together To Overcome Hurdles And Pave The Way To Harmony

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If you and your partner struggle to overcome ongoing conflict and gridlock in your relationship, couples counseling can help you overcome challenges and achieve shared goals together.

To learn more about my services or schedule an appointment, I invite you to get in touch via email or the contact form on my site.

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